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An Amicable Divorce From Society

I have effectively retired from society.  I don't see friends and I am not close to many people.  I have few connections of any kind. I am enjoying this in big ways.  My mental health has been better.  My anxiety and depression feel almost under control.  Contributing to this, I believe, is informed self consideration.  I enter now into introspection with better understanding about what is happening to me.  I can self reflect more precisely and I feel better at understanding what I discover during self reflection.  This and a calculated withdrawal from social life have seen my overall mood improve somewhat.

Said withdrawal remains in progress.  I continue to close avenues of distress.  Ways into suffering.  I've separated from social media as much as possible.  And I ignore the stressors therein when I must engage.  This has meant abandoning some relationships but that is OK.  My life has no social dimension.  Trying to make my life have a social dimension is like trying to change the fundamental geometry of a shadow.  I know this from decades of experience.  Socially I'm depthless as a shadow and I have hated myself for that.  Embracing the truth about myself has been a worthwhile endeavor, even if it has meant the dissolution of some relationships.  I feel relieved.

It might be said that I am retreating from my problems instead of confronting them.  I am open to considering that interpretation.  But I'm not interested in justification.  I prefer to describe rather than to explain.  And I'm comfortable ignoring pressure.

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